Self-care when planning a wedding
Yay! Wedding Planning! What a fun and joyful experience
Get married, they said! Wedding planning will be so much fun, they said.
Well so it should be… it’s one of the biggest and most important days of your life. But let’s just face it, that’s not to say that it will be a breeze. Wedding planning is a journey in itself, an incredibly exciting one that most often comes with a fair share of stress especially if you’re planning a destination wedding.
Chances are if you’re reading this, you’re planning a wedding, potentially even planning a wedding in Italy, and you’ve got a lot on your mind. Decisions, decisions, decisions, even if you are not particularly fussed about details, you still have a lot of decision-making to do.
An Indoor or outdoor wedding, children or no children, round or long tables, a two or three tier cake, a string quartet or a saxophonist? The list just goes on and on, therefore, it’s inevitable to find yourself feeling overwhelmed and stressed out to a point where you’re beginning to wish it was over already.
Don’t worry – we’ve got some advice to help you be more mindful and give yourself some You time, whilst still managing everything involved with planning a destination wedding in Italy.
Take Care of Your Mind
You might find that you are constantly distracted and find it difficult to focus, which is why taking care of your mind is key. Take some time to unwind, take a deep breath and step away from the wedding planning book! Meditation and yoga can really help to give you some space to breathe – even just ten minutes of quiet stretching a day might help you to turn off your wedding brain and regain that sense of serenity that you need.
Also, if a good night’s sleep is eluding you, try writing down all the things you’re worrying about – you might find that it helps you to go to bed with a clear head and avoid those wedding planning nightmares.
Take Care of Your Body
It’s very easy to let your health slip away from you when you’re short on time. Tempting as it may be, reaching for convenience food and the snack cupboard is not going to give you the fuel you need to keep going. Try and eat fresh, healthy meals. Exercise is vital, too, and it might help you use up some of your nervous energy as the wedding gets closer. If you’re stressing about your appearance and are considering a crash diet to shed a few pounds in the lead up to your wedding, we highly suggest you don’t.
A bride or groom who has been nibbling on kale and carrots for the last month will not have the energy to get you through the planning, and will certainly not give you that wedding day glow. Safe dieting requires time and planning so if you do wish to slim down, organise yourself and do it the proper way.
Take Care of Your To-Do List
Yes, you need to take care of yourself, but you still need to get stuff done, right? This is where delegation comes in, especially when you’re planning a wedding in Italy. It’s tempting to try to take control of everything yourself, but there are small tasks that you can give to your bridesmaids or family members. That way, you can savour the tasks that you really love. Gather your wedding helpers, we all need them and most often there are plenty of them around. Your mother-in-law or auntie might be there patiently waiting for you to task her with a few things so she can happily get involved. We’ll never know if we don’t ask.
Take Care of Your Relationship
It can be so easy to forget why you’re doing this when you’re caught up in all the details of planning a big event. Take some time out. One date night a week, with no wedding talk allowed (even during quarantine). Get dressed up and prepare a fancy meal at home or eventually when deemed safe – you can go out for a meal, or maybe visit the place you went on your first date and enjoy some reminiscing – take time to reconnect. Oh and getting dressed up to head over to your wedding menu tasting does not count so you can rule that one out right away!
Take Care of Your Soul
On a similar note, it’s important to remember what you love to do outside of wedding prep. What makes you happy, passionate, and excited about life? Are you the creative type? Do you like to explore, to go on short trips and find new places? Do you love to go out with your friends? Or are you happiest curled up with a book? You deserve some time to just be you.
Planning such a huge event is bound to be draining, especially when planning a wedding overseas – there are many extra complications when it comes to organising and travelling with your loved ones, and it can seem like a huge task. We hope that these tips will help you to stay calm and to enjoy the build up to your big day. Remember everything is temporary even the current situation we’re all faced with.
Are you a couple planning on getting married in Italy? Have you started your Italian wedding venue search and found all your perfect wedding suppliers in Italy? Discover more tips and advice on our blog. How are you keeping calm and taking care of yourself?